My Values and Identity
Gay, Lesbian, Queer…
I can’t ever seem to land on a label for myself, but suffice it to say I live with my wife and we are active in the local LGBTQ+ community. Even though I was able to leave religion behind in my early 20s, I did not fully come out until I was well into my 30s. I am a cisgender woman and my pronouns are she/her.
I believe that a lot of psychological and emotional suffering comes from a lack of compassion for one’s self. We also benefit when we find compassion for others. We are all doing the best we can with what we’ve got, at any given time.
I strive to be honest and clear in my communication, ethical in my actions and do my best to be a person of my word.
I grew up in the evangelical Christian church, sang in the worship band and went on mission trips. I slowly shed those old beliefs in my early 20s. I understand that being a born-again Christian is not something people just do on Sundays – it is an entire culture and way of life that I had to deconstruct. I now identify as an atheist-leaning agnostc. I believe the physical world is what exists. I do not believe in things like gods, spirits, or an afterlife. I believe we create our own meaning in our brief experience of consciousness.
Humans need other humans, not just for safety and survival, but to generally feel okay. Attaching to others is normal, as is the pain we experience when those relationships change or end. Relationships are imperfect and complicated, but essential.
I recognize the systemic power structures that negatively impact many people for the benefit of specific others. I understand that not all problems are individual problems. I humbly acknowledge my privileges and strive to always remain curious and continue learning. I support BLM, and identify as a feminist.
Who I Am, Besides A Therapist
I’m a mom of a pretty great teenager, and if you follow me on Instagram you probably already know I’m in love with our family’s two little dogs. I am a San Diego Padres fan, and there is special irony in loving a team named after colonial missionaries. I sing in a queer women’s chorus, which is also where I met my wife a decade ago. She and I have a mild obsession with Lady Gaga.