When you’re hurting, it can feel lonely and isolating. I want you to know, you’re not alone. Together we can get to the other side of your anxiety, stress, grief, or heartbreak, to find you some peace and relief. We will do this safe from dogma, religion, or magical thinking. Instead, you will find acceptance, caring, and genuine curiosity about your unique life experiences, integrated with evidence-based approaches. You’ll also find a queer, secular therapist with a reality-based worldview and nearly two decades of experience.
Many clients and friends have reported experiencing religious or spiritual beliefs and practices imposed upon them in therapy. They’ve reported therapists suggesting prayer, recommending religion-based books, insisting that AA is the only way to get sober, and encouraging belief in an afterlife to cope with grief.
This person found himself being pushed back into the closet by his therapist.
You may be dealing with loss or a difficult life change, and you don’t want to be told it is “god’s plan” or that you need to “pray about it.”
You may be in the process of deconstructing old beliefs and shedding religious indoctrination, while also trying to figure out what you believe and who you are now. Or perhaps purity culture and patriarchy have messed with your head, and you’re dealing with the aftermath.
Or you might have all that stuff figured out, but you just want to be certain your therapist is going to keep spiritual or religious elements out of your care as you deal with anxiety, stress, or relationship problems.
Does any of this sound like you? Then let’s talk.
Society and religion can really con us into torturing ourselves, just for being who we are. Even when we consciously have accepted our sexuality or gender, cultural programming can linger and wreak havoc inside. Whether you’re struggling with internalized homophobia/transphobia, or you’re presently dealing with your religious family members who say they “hate the sin and love the sinner,” you’re not alone and I get it.
Read more about self-compassion for LGBTQ+ exvangelical folks here.
Florida’s state government has done at least one thing right (despite some of the horrible moves it has been making recently). It allows licensed, out-of-state mental health clinicians like me to provide telehealth (online) services. Now that I have been officially approved, I am excited to be able to connect…
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