You’re here because of the guilt, the anxiety, the sadness, the shame, the fear… maybe it’s all of the above. Maybe you’re not even sure what you’re feeling, but it’s not good.
If you’re coming out for the first time, or only recently came out, I know it’s a lot. Emotionally, socially, and practically. It affects your relationships, your social life, most everything. Some days you may feel proud and excited to be out; other days you might wonder why the hell you ever stuck a toe out of the closet.
If you’ve come from a religious background, and feel like it should be in your past, you’re probably frustrated that it keeps popping up in ways that range from annoying to infuriating in the present. There’s a residue remaining there, and it keeps getting in the way.
Perhaps you’ve been in therapy before, and it was fine, but it only scratched the surface and you want to go deeper. You still feel stuck, you want to understand more about why, and, most importantly, how to truly move forward in your life.
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Society and religion can really con us into torturing ourselves, just for being who we are.
Even when we consciously have accepted our sexuality or gender, cultural programming can linger and wreak havoc inside.
You might also be practicing non-monogamy in one or more of its various forms. It is important to find a therapist who affirms your relationship structure and can help you understand yourself within your relationship(s).
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Read more about self-compassion for LGBTQ+ exvangelical folks here.
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