You are not alone.

When you’re hurting, it can feel lonely and isolating. I want you to know, you’re not alone. Together we can get to the other side of your anxiety, stress, grief, or heartbreak, to find you some peace and relief. We will do this safe from dogma, religion, or magical thinking. Instead, you will find acceptance, caring, and genuine curiosity about your unique life experiences, integrated with evidence-based approaches. You’ll also find a queer, secular therapist with a reality-based worldview and nearly two decades of experience


Stress and Anxiety

Life hands us some tough stuff and it can sometimes feel completely overwhelming. I offer reality-based solutions and compassionate curiosity, not religious platitudes, woo-woo spirituality, or advice to “pray about it.”


LGBTQ+, Poly, Ethical Non-Monogamy

You may be looking for a therapist who understands non-traditional relationships, who is queer-identified and not steeped in heteronormativity. If you are recovering from religion, this part of your identity may be important to consider.


Recovery From Religion

Even when we consciously no longer believe, the emotional and psychological impact of adverse religious experiences can remain. We can work through these effects while exploring who you are now and what is truly important to you in this life.


Grief and Loss

When you’re suffering from a loss, it seems like everyone has a spiritual comment or suggestion. But grief can look a little different when you don’t believe in an afterlife. And the last thing you want to hear is that it is “god’s plan.”


Gender-Affirming Mental Health Evaluations

I provide mental health evaluations and letters for trans folks seeking gender-affirming procedures and medical care. This can usually be completed in one visit. Please contact me for more details!


Relationship Issues

Relationships can be complex. We can improve them through communication and boundaries, as well as respecting our own emotions and needs. (Please note I do not conduct couples’ therapy.)

What does it mean to be a secular therapist?

Did you know? Approximately 80% of Americans believe in a supernatural god of some kind. So, there is a good chance that any given therapist is religious or spiritual in some way. A secular therapist is one who clearly identifies they do not include spiritual or religious practices in their work, and uses evidence-based practices.

Many clients and friends have reported experiencing religious or spiritual beliefs and practices imposed upon them in therapy. They’ve reported therapists suggesting prayer, recommending religion-based books, insisting that AA is the only way to get sober, and encouraging belief in an afterlife to cope with grief.

This person found himself being pushed back into the closet by his therapist.  

You may be dealing with loss or a difficult life change, and you don’t want to be told it is “god’s plan” or that you need to “pray about it.”

You may be in the process of deconstructing old beliefs and shedding religious indoctrination, while also trying to figure out what you believe and who you are now. Or perhaps purity culture and patriarchy have messed with your head, and you’re dealing with the aftermath.

Or you might have all that stuff figured out, but you just want to be certain your therapist is going to keep spiritual or religious elements out of your care as you deal with anxiety, stress, or relationship problems.

Does any of this sound like you? Then let’s talk.

LGBTQ+ and non-traditional relationships

Society and religion can really con us into torturing ourselves, just for being who we are. Even when we consciously have accepted our sexuality or gender, cultural programming can linger and wreak havoc inside. Whether you’re struggling with internalized homophobia/transphobia, or you’re presently dealing with your religious family members who say they “hate the sin and love the sinner,” you’re not alone and I get it.
Read more about self-compassion for LGBTQ+ exvangelical folks here.

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